tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post4631686748325180545..comments2024-03-28T14:47:37.747-04:00Comments on Shipslog: So your are OLD, NOW WHAT?jack69http://www.blogger.com/profile/12884137603402812926noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-20989891581961985152008-12-06T22:27:00.000-05:002008-12-06T22:27:00.000-05:00I think writing a book on this subject would be a ...I think writing a book on this subject would be a good one... Jeff and I don't have kids....so when we get old and can no longer care for ourselves....i'm not sure what will happen to us.. sigh...it's something to think about thats for sure...In reading moms comment...I'm not real sure what she wants for herself...but I hope she knows I would do my best to be there for her...<BR/><BR/>Great entry<BR/>Hugs<BR/>TerriTerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00860119214522064405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-3867793653054027042008-12-06T12:03:00.000-05:002008-12-06T12:03:00.000-05:00I know what you mean. I hope we are never burdens ...I know what you mean. I hope we are never burdens on our families. HelenHelenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10157512726495946384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-4579907309121185442008-12-06T10:43:00.000-05:002008-12-06T10:43:00.000-05:00Old Age is for wine and cheeze, not people!!!!!!It...Old Age is for wine and cheeze, not people!!!!!!<BR/><BR/>Its tough as we age, decisions are tough to make, thats why me and honey moved into Senior Citizen Housing, our apartment is already handicapped access, there are no local Assisted Living Centers close by but we have one of the nicest Nursing Homes you could ask for.<BR/><BR/>Coming from a family of 8.... after father passed away mother stayed log-home dad built for her, complete with wood-stove, and the day came when something had to be done, everyone argued, fought and cried about having to put mom in a Nursing Home, SO, a dutiful son took her home to live with them, it was great for about 2 weeks till she fell and broke her hip!!! and needed 24 hour care, Mother was placed in the Nursing home at age 81, she HATED IT for about a month, but the therapy, the knowledge that there were several relatives there, the great food, also the way they took care of her, the visits from family & friends, she settled in and refused to go home after recuperating... she had 4 years of good quality life. I have no regrets.<BR/><BR/>WoodyWoodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10133152472401045582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-24967783563844808602008-12-06T00:53:00.000-05:002008-12-06T00:53:00.000-05:00I told my sister (who my mom was living with at th...I told my sister (who my mom was living with at the time) that if she ever thought she couldn't take care of my mom and it was getting too much that she had my 100% support to look into homes or places where my mom would be well cared for and I would help anyway I could (we lived 1400/3000 miles away and I knew she knew my mom's condition better than I ever did). My mom would have gone to a home too; she never wanted to be a "burden" but she never got to that point before she passed on, which I think was an answer to prayer (thank you Lord) because she was pretty functional up until the last 6 weeks of her life. On the other hand, my hubby's parents, both in their 80s, are struggling to try to live independently and won't give up control of their own home and won't let anyone in their home to help them (other than hubby/brother who try to help but can't always help). They have the resources to go into an assisted living place/retirement home and be happy there, make friends, be able to socialize, get their needs met and they are stubborn to go. <BR/><BR/>good things to think about and be prepared for<BR/><BR/>bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-31580157996613650892008-12-05T22:53:00.000-05:002008-12-05T22:53:00.000-05:00Wooohooo! It took me a few tries but it finally le...Wooohooo! It took me a few tries but it finally let me leave my comment, lol.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09039342776866311508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-50638506861601261082008-12-05T22:51:00.000-05:002008-12-05T22:51:00.000-05:00I hope it lets me comment on this entry cause I've...I hope it lets me comment on this entry cause I've been having problems with it not letting me leave comments. Yeah I tried to leave a comment on your entries and it wouldn't let me.<BR/>Maybe they have it fixed today.<BR/>Anyway, I agree being a caregiver for a loved one takes it's toll on all involved. It wears you down and sometimes you wonder where you're gonna find the strength but you take a few deep breaths and keep hanging in there to care for them to the best of your ability. It's not for the weak minded that's for sure and some make excuses to get away from it as much as they can putting more of the responsibility on the ones who are already worn to the bone.<BR/>Personal care homes (assisted living) are much different than nursing homes or they are around here anyway. It takes a special person to work in a nursing home and sadly it's like anything else some of these workers could care less about caring for the residents they are there for a paycheck, leaving the one's who do care to push themselves beyond their limits. All of the nursing homes are understaffed they can't keep help if they do hire. And the saddest part of it all is many families use these facilities as a dumping ground for their loved ones, and in cases like this I use that term loosely. Many residents NEVER have any family members visit them at all they put them in there and go on about their merry pitiful lives as if their loved one doesn't exist. <BR/>I better quit now before I really get pissed. I've seen alot. Writing a book on this subject is a great idea if I was a writer I could probably write my own.<BR/>DebbieDebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09039342776866311508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-52190242804165128552008-12-05T22:07:00.000-05:002008-12-05T22:07:00.000-05:00I agree with you and have told my girls I do not w...I agree with you and have told my girls I do not want to interrupt their lives. If I am miserable or sick I can do it somewhere else.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007728342316668058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-62522943186837270072008-12-05T21:12:00.000-05:002008-12-05T21:12:00.000-05:00As we go to all the assisted living Centers to sin...As we go to all the assisted living Centers to sing and dance with them they have a ball. The three that we go to is like a Hotel. They are very nice. Billie even has her Keyboard in her room. Other are decorated just like their home. They take them everywhere. I am glad we<BR/>did it but wouldn't suggest it to anyone. It is 24/7.<BR/><BR/>Shirlshirl72https://www.blogger.com/profile/17268124369207064149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3874656382203957840.post-65527618472604123752008-12-05T19:51:00.000-05:002008-12-05T19:51:00.000-05:00Hello Mr. Jack,I went through a rough time with my...Hello Mr. Jack,<BR/>I went through a rough time with my father. He would not live with us and He was afraid that we were going to put him in a home. He gave us a fit. We spent a lot of money in paying people to stay with him. Not to mention the problem with people using him and taking from him. He didn't want to stay alone and I tried to tell him that we could have some one with him around the clock in a home. But, there was no way he was going anywhere. He would of had a much better life in a home but, he refused.<BR/>God Bless<BR/><BR/>RandyRandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16803062023943925877noreply@blogger.com