(I am posting, and the alerts get stalled somewhere in space, I think it is too far to the internet from the Low Country and they get lost!)
“WRITE YOUR OBITUARY!” Words spoken to me by my sister Shirl, after she had worked on her third or forth family Obituary. If you ever get caught off-guard by a death, you will know what she is saying.
So yes, I have written my obituary, I told her she was going to be surprised at how good I WAS! Since that advice we have ran into situations where it would have been easier on the family, if the person had actually written their obit.
Some facts about death. When women are left behind, they can get thru the info asked by the funeral director, but if it is only men, the deceased is out of luck. To be VERY plain, when it comes to family history and info ‘WE MEN DON’T KNOW $HI-!’.
Try it, Ask some man what was his mother in law’s maiden name and how to spell it. Brothers and sisters and their husbands and wives, etc. Ask a guy where his mama was born. Quickly, who pre-deceased your dad?
Just the other day we learned of a family that forgot to list one of the deceased sisters in the obit of a wife who died unexpectedly and it caused a terrible row in the family. To be honest I never thought how important the obit was, BUT I AM LEARNING!
My book, ‘Gracefully Grasping for Dignity’ covers a lot of that. This book is about 100 pages, an easy read containing some blank forms, in large print and is available on Amazon. It is also an e-book thru Kindle. The Kindle is still only 99¢ I believe. Just the other day I got a call from a man who had just read the book. He wanted to notify me he would be ordering 200 of these books for a group of seniors for Christmas.
Lucy (who is probably our most senior blogger) got me to thinking of this in her blog. She made a statement that some can relate too, “I was more honest with my doctor this trip than ever before, concerning my fear of stroke and becoming dependent.” Yes Lucy, that is the fear of most of us seniors, and it is REAL.
I do not morbidly think of death, but I know it WILL happen. I smile when I think of the words of an attorney when my dad went in to get his will made out. Dad said, “I told him that I needed a will in case I died.”
The attorney said, “First thing we must get straight preacher, it is not ‘In case I die’ it is when I die.”
Think about it, you are never too young nor too old to die.
There are some things that are sure, that is death and taxes…..
On a serious note:
Johnny is at work one day when he notices that his co-worker, Bill, is wearing an earring. John knows Bill to be a normally conservative fellow and is curious about his sudden change in "fashion sense." John walks up to Bill and says, "I didn't know you were into earrings."
"Don't make such a big deal, it's only an earring," Bill replies sheepishly.
John falls silent for a few minutes, but then his curiosity prods him to ask, "So, how long have you been wearing one?"
"Ever since my wife found it in my truck."
I always wondered how this trend got started.
Even cars die:
But like us, this one is still alive: