I have probably mentioned this before if I have, here it is again (not knowing is another sign of age).
Brother-in-law Dick and I were having a talk when he turned 73. We were leaning on my Pickup truck between our two motor homes. “Jack, I think Kat and I can drive the Motor Home until I am 80, then we will have to hang it up.” His mother was still alive, driving and healthy at 90+.
Sister Kat and hubby Dick
Dick had Rheumatic Fever as a child and previous to this conversation at my Truck, he had developed an erratic heart beat. After a thorough exam the Dr. said, “YOU need a heart valve. I am going to suggest a mechanical one because if I put a pig valve in, you will be back in a few years needing another, you will wear it out. You have the arteries of an 18year old.”
He went into detail about how they would spend their last years in their condo with folks he knew from Guyana, They would take care of them until the passing. The the Guyanese couple would inherit their home. Dick was a very thoughtful man and the plan sounded very good to me.
Sadly this healthy specimen was in the ground within the year leaving my sister a grieving widow.
Do you have a family member that you feel will bury the whole family then live out their life fishing or golfing? Dick was one off those & Jim, Shirl’s husband, another. Both of them as healthy as horses. Both stayed active. The very picture of health and both ate fairly healthy. NEITHER had a problem with ‘cholesterol’. Blood pressure was always good and no sugar problems. A stroke took Dick and Esophageal CANCER took Jim.
Sister Shirl and hubby Jim
I think about that often when we make sort of long range plans, will I be here to see them through. We want to take the entire family on a Caribbean Cruise on our 60th wedding anniversary. BUT what if I am not around to enjoy seeing them enjoy the gift. SOOOO then I start thinking of maybe doing it NEXT YEAR on our 59th.
If that works, I already have the 60th figured out. A cruise for ME ‘n Sherry. I will start an exercise program to get myself ready. THEN a trip to Victoria’s Secrets for my girl some ‘stuff’. Then we go to sea and relive that first night!!!! ……………… You ain’t supposed to be laughing, I have always said, “A man is nothing, if he cannot dream!”
PS:(I hope you live forever!)
Now a sermon in life:
Teacher Debbie Moon's first graders were discussing a picture of a family. One little boy in the picture had a different hair color than the other members. One of students suggested that he was adopted. A little girl said, 'I know all about adoption, I was adopted'. 'What does it mean to be adopted?’ asked another child. 'It means', said the girl, 'that you grew in your mommy's heart instead of her tummy!'
1941 Studebaker, Stud Museum in South Bend