Monday, January 9, 2017
In this life there is always choices. Even though it is the individual's choice (decision), it seems to be other folks business.
(Old cars like OLD folk, need love and a happy place!)
Tonight I am thinking of senior widows and widowers. Many people have a ‘set in stone’ time frame for senior adults to marry after the death of a mate. I think the average set by many who have not faced the situation is one or two years.
I am a different animal, when a person is in their late 60’s and up, they deserve happiness. Folks, the mate will never return. My sister, bless her heart loved her husband for over 50 years was dedicated to him. But her blunt answer was, ‘when a mate is dead he is dead.’ For some, being alone is what they prefer. My mama was one of those. Her statement was, ‘I had my man, don’t need another.’ I personally had hoped she could find someone to fill dad’s place if for no other reason than companionship. My sister Kat was different, she needed someone. She found as good a mate and fell in love. She was happy for about 5 years before she passed at 78.
As I have aged, my ideas and thoughts have changed. There are many older folk who need someone to watch TV or have meals with. Many times it is as simple as having someone to talk to. I see no reason in this world that they cannot do this in their own home. They would have the same privilege in an ‘old folk’s home’ or assisted living facility, but it would be their OWN home.
Me? I am from a strict religious group. Actually many of my family and friends are still associated with the church. I am still a member, but have many differing opinions with my friends. These folk could not tolerate (UNDERSTAND) if two of their peers decided to cohabitate even if just for companionship.
Children are sometimes worse than religious zealots. Many times they see the new husband or wife as a slap in the face of their deceased mother or dad. The survivor loves the mate no less, the memories will be there forever. But the children cannot see this.
I have a great friend, Ed. I know and love his daughter, she is a sweet person. Ed told me his daughter told him, “Dad. Remember, I am always here if you need someone to talk to.”
He said I tried to explain to her, "that is not the problem’, I NEED a lady who is not my daughter to talk to. Someone my age who understands loneliness."
PS: I meant for this to be short. Forgive me, I don't think I know short!
Love that MG!