Smokers can point to folks who smoked 1-3 packs a day and lived to be 95-101 yrs old (I did it). We all justify our actions and decisions. I remember a story I read once. A gentleman applied for a job as janitor at a large cathedral. He was turned down because he could neither read nor write.
Leaving the church he passed a fruit stand and bought a bag of apples. Before he reached home, he had sold some of them to pay for the bag. The idea came to him about a rolling fruit stand. He checked around, seeing mobile hot dog stands but nothing with fruit. So being handy, he converted an old hand truck to a rolling stand and it was the beginning of a massive business of fresh fruits and veggies.
Thirty years later he went to the Cathedral to make a donation. He had always gave them the credit for his success. He had his check book and asked the secretary to write the check for $100,000. He made his special x in the signature spot. The secretary asked him to wait while she got the Bishop.
In the conversation the subject of his inability to write came up.”Sir this is amazing, did you ever think what you would have been if you could write?”
“Yes sir, I have given it a lot of thought, if I could read and write I would be your janitor!”
So in education, I used that bull headed logic to quit school. I knew many successful people who did not have a HS education. I was successful without it, but I KNOW I would have been better off had I finished high school and went to college.
He is graduating from UNCC with a major in Music. He is a fantastic musician and song writer. Well not just songs, he writes Concertos, and sings Opera in 6 languages. He is a good guy. He is a twin to Joshua who is also a talented musician and a whiz at Computer Science, the field in which he is very successful.
Stephen graduated a few years behind his brother because he decided in the last quarter at Mars Hill College, to be a party animal. Now he has learned a hard lesson. It took over a year to reproduce what he would have completed in that quarter he ‘gave up’. It has been tough but his wife has supported his efforts to work and go to school full time. He is top in his class.
I was pretty smart in school, but ignorant to its importance, so I dropped out and headed for the military. My sister Shirl was the only high school grad in mom and dad’s family.
I tried to impress on my sons the importance of school, but it did not take. Both boys were very good in school. We were very disappointed when they dropped out.
It would be over 20 years before I owned a '55 Chevy! ;-)