You don’t REALLY KNOW what you have, until it is gone. Maybe that is not a hard a fast rule, but in humans it holds up pretty well.
Starting with my first friends in the 1-3 grades. We moved after the 3rd grade and arrived in a new town where I knew no one. I remember missing Sonny Turner and Hurley McAdams.
Then there was Ace. He came into my life as I was missing my friends. My dog and I were inseparable. There was always room in the car for Ace. I loved his head out the window (long before A/C was common in a car). He appeared to smile as the wind was in his ears and mouth. We swam, fished and hunted together. He was an outside dog until I lived in the back yard in a little box of a trailer. (So big sister Shirl could have her own room).
Ace and I NEVER minded, because then he became an inside dog, even slept with me. One fateful day Ace died. I was probably 13. That was the worst hurt I ever had. I dug the grave and buried Ace. Night after night I prayed over that dog. If a boy’s prayers are heard, old Ace is in Heaven. LOL
I didn’t know how nice some parts of youth was, until I lost it.
I didn’t know how important my hearing was, until I lost it.
I did not realize how nice it was to NOT look for my glasses, until my sight dimmed.
I know men and women who DID NOT appreciate their mates until they were gone. One lady said, “I sure do miss my husband.” BUT you would not have known that while he was alive.
A Friend (Whose marriage had been tumultuous) told me, “I really didn’t think I would miss the old girl, but I do.”
Ahhh yes, and the unions that were based on real LOVE, I hear them say how they miss their true love, they try to describe the emptiness, especially the first year.
Now Sherry and I are approaching our 80’s. WE KNOW, one of us will be left. WE talk about it, neither of us can imagine life without the other. We also know life goes on. We cannot KNOW what YOU who have lost the true love of your life feel, we can only imagine. BUT WE TRY to appreciate what we have.
1949 Studebaker pickup with matching trailer!