(Disclaimer, I am not an expert on seniors nor kids, but at this stage what is done is done in my life with raising a family, I did the best I could at the time, but looking back I could have done much better.)
Life and living it, has changed over the years. Our society has evolved where more and more martial discipline (corporal Punishment) is frowned on by society. I will be the first to say I went overboard in my parenting a couple times. BUT it is now to the point young parents are afraid to spank a child for fear of Social services being notified. So now we see screaming kids in restaurants, stores and parks. Kids fall on the floor and pitch a tantrum in the toy department and parents seem confused as what to do.
I didn’t get too many 'spankings', ‘switching’s’ and/or ‘whippings’ in my life, but I deserved the few I got (and more). I would much rather daddy dispense the punishment, mama had a way of using ‘the talk’ before and after the ‘switching’ to get to the heart of the issue. LOL
In my early life I had friends who carried the marks of ‘whippings’ for days. I do know some were over board, but did they bend a child the wrong way? I am not sure. I have read that folks who were whipped regularly, passed that on to their children. I do not always swallow every survey hook line and sinker, but my sampling to counter that is very small.
'I think' most discipline, firmly applied, with love WORKS. Notice I wrote, I THINK, because I cannot say that the love part always came across, in my case.
Our sons have raised some VERY FINE kids, my grand-kids NEVER screamed or pitched a hissy fit because they did not get their way. I was always proud of our sons and their wives for that. NOTICE I am not going further back than the grands. LOL
You that raised kids, did you have a problem with deciding the discipline?