it is all in how you say it

(We just dropped in for a visit)

Then there is Myra
(http://mevely317.blogspot.com/2017/05/sunday-stealing-chicago-crazy-questions.html)  she always has great answers to hard questions (Sunday Stealing). I took note of the question which dealt with someone unexpectedly ‘dropping in’.

My mind wandered to some wonderful friends who lived in the woods of Maine on their own little mountain. No electricity in a log cabin, they had built. I admired their ruggedness and ability to answer a  question honestly, without hurting your feelings. i.e.

My call, out of the blue, “Hello Judy, This is Jack.  We are in the area and would like to stop by to see you and Al, is this a bad time?”  (We wander a lot. At that time we were 1000 miles from our homebase down in North Carolina. They lived near Milbridge, ME.)

What would your answer be if you were not ready for a visit?

Ours would be, “Uh, OK, now is good, yeah of course come on over!”

Then we would rush around to try to make the place look presentable, maybe quickly call someone to cancel something.” I can never say, ”WE are not ready for company,( or something to that affect)."

Friend Judy said, “Hi Jack, I am glad you asked because this is not a good time, glad you are up this way, could you check back tomorrow. Al is not ready for company today.”

We understood completely. AL was very sick and there are definitely days that are worse than others for company.

We did check back and went over to see them.  It was our last time seeing Al. He never made it back down south to Florida for the winter.  We continue to visit Judy. That tough lady still comes to Florida in the winter, alone.

It seems to be a trait of the good folk up in the New England corner of the USA to be matter of fact, I wish my nature was inclined that direction.  

Don’t get me wrong. Sherry and I were both raised in an area where 90% of the visits to your house were spur of the moment happenings, not planned. We loved it, it was a way of life. But times have changed and folks are more programmed with so many outside activities, we try to remember that.

Thanks to Myra for the thought that primed this entry.  Lately my friends in Bloggerville have been responsible for my entries. Some have put up with our 'being in the area'.

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