Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Driving in the USA, the most dangerous highways

Our life for the past 15-18 years has been on the road. When I read this list of the most dangerous highways in the USA, I was surprised that the one we live on in Deltona (I-4) is the most dangerous in the USA. WHAT?

Here is the top ten list and we have driven many of them.
1. Interstate 4 — Tampa to Daytona Beach (132 miles; 1.41 fatalities per mile)
2. Interstate 45 — Dallas to Houston
3. Interstate 17 — Phoenix to Flagstaff, Ariz.
4. Interstate 30 -— Fort Worth, Texas, to Little Rock, Ark.
5. Interstate 95 — Miami to Houlton, Maine (1,926 miles; 0.89 fatalities per mile)
6. Interstate 19 — Nogales, Mexico, to Tucson, Ariz.
7. Interstate 10 — Santa Monica, Calif., to Jacksonville (2,460 miles; 0.85 fatalities per mile)
8. Interstate 37 — Corpus Christi to San Antonio, Texas
9. Interstate 26 — Kingsport, Tenn., to Charleston, S.C.
10. Interstate 97 — Annapolis, Md., to Baltimore

We have driven the full length of some of these. We have been fortunate. We have had blowouts on some of them. Once, on I-95, a car hit the concrete divider as it was passing us and did a  180 slide around across in front of our coach and did not hit anyone. That was the only time I wished I had a dash cam. He was doing about 80mph we were doing about 60mph and no other cars were hit although it was crowded and no one was hurt. At no time did I feel we were in danger (Sherry was a different story). I braked and let his car do what it was going to do.  Of course it could have been disastrous, but it wasn’t. And it was over in a matter of seconds. 99% of our rides in this coach have been a joy ride. 

(I 55-I 64crossing the Mississippi at St. Louis, safe roads)

 Sherry knows I prefer to drive west of the Mississippi.  The views are spectacular and the traffic is minimal. We set this dude on cruise control, about 59-60, sit back, enjoy the scenery and relax. I cannot describe the feeling. I definitely feel safer than a pilot of a 747 with about a million less controls and buttons. LOL And my view is much better than his.
 (I 90 Badlands and Mt Rushmore safe roads)

I know at 78 years old, my time of long distance driving is growing shorter, but I am going to enjoy every mile until my mind says, “Jack, you cannot handle this rig anymore.”

I would love to drive:
1.      Back to Alaska.(scenery)
2.      Thru Pennsylvania to Maine again.(scenery & friends)
3.      Nevada/Utah thru Missouri & Arizona (scenery,friends & family)
4.      San Antonio thru Nawlins (friends and some chicory coffee with  be-neighs!)
5.      The UPPER area of Michigan down thru Wisconsin (scenery, family and friends)
But I am afraid life might get in the way before those trips become reality.
But I can dream……..
Nite Shipslog
 This was the Overland Coach, towing a van. We circled the USA a couple times in it. (That is Sonny, my buddy!)

Monday, March 27, 2017

Yesterday was Old folks, today it is the Younger set

(Disclaimer, I am not an expert on seniors nor kids, but at this stage what is done is done in my life with raising a family, I did the best I could at the time, but looking back I could have done much better.)

Life and living it, has changed over the years. Our society has evolved where more and more martial discipline (corporal Punishment) is frowned on by society.  I will be the first to say I went overboard in my parenting a couple times. BUT it is now to the point young parents are afraid to spank a child for fear of Social services being notified. So now we see screaming kids in restaurants, stores and parks. Kids fall on the floor and pitch a tantrum in the toy department and parents seem confused as what to do.

I didn’t get too many 'spankings', ‘switching’s’ and/or ‘whippings’ in my life, but I deserved the few I got (and more). I would much rather daddy dispense the punishment, mama had a way of using ‘the talk’ before and after the ‘switching’ to get to the heart of the issue. LOL

In my early life I had friends who carried the marks of ‘whippings’ for days. I do know some were over board, but did they bend a child the wrong way? I am not sure.  I have read that folks who were whipped regularly, passed that on to their children. I do not always swallow every survey hook line and sinker, but my sampling to counter that is very small.

'I think' most discipline, firmly applied, with love WORKS. Notice I wrote, I THINK, because I cannot say that the love part always came across, in my case.
Our sons have raised some VERY FINE kids, my grand-kids NEVER screamed or pitched a hissy fit because they did not get their way.  I was always proud of our sons and their wives for that. NOTICE I am not going further back than the grands. LOL

You that raised kids, did you have a problem with deciding the discipline?

Nite Shipslog 
Did mama and daddy truck raise  good off-spring?

Sunday, March 26, 2017

Parenting, Senior Love and friendship

Funny thing about life. I was talking to my good friend Dallas the other day and the subject of ‘Tough Love’ came up. We bated it back and forth what we thought of the policy and he says to me, “Jack, I can use and enforce tough love to its final stage, with YOUR KIDS!”

We all had a good laugh at that, because we all KNOW that is the human’s nature: It is easy to tell someone what to do when we have no skin in the game, no responsibility if the advice falls flat.

If we are not careful, we will blame parents when their children go completely wild, i.e. shoot someone, kidnap or rob a bank. I have known some wonderful folk in my life. Good folk, good parents and their sons and daughters are determined to go to hell in the fast lane.

I know two families with loving parents. Both families had sons spend time in prison. The rest of the kids model citizens. They went thru a lot, in addition to the same battles of their peers.

We Parents do enough ‘blaming ourselves’ when a son or daughter ‘hits the skids’.  No parent needs other parents to pile on.

So when these parents reach retirement they deserve happiness. Seniors deserve love.  They are no longer 19-20 years old with 50-60 years of life ahead. Upon the loss of a loving partner of course they are lonely. Not necessarily marriage but they need ‘companionship’. They need love and attention. Someone to share meals and watch TV. Many are in their 80-90 range, but their feelings and desires are still the same, many need that closeness. There are always exceptions. My mama and Sherry’s dad didn’t seem to NEED a partner. I still smile remembering my mama saying, “I had MY MAN, don’t need another.”

When those seniors (our peers) find happiness in another, they certainly don’t need their children or us demanding an explanation (It is true everyone needs to legally show common sense): i.e. when one dies what happens with the estates (large or small), something needs to show the intents of both. Because life goes on, so there will be another death.  Happiness is a big part of living long and healthier.
Sorry, that was just on my mind.
Nite Shipslog
 Most Seniors have went through life over loaded.

 But in the end, the body may be beat up and the load of life still there, but as long as the engine runs we still want to GO!