Tuesday, September 16, 2025

Thxxxxurxsday Wednesday (sorry I had the wrong day!)… Minister or bartender as marriage counselor!

 Favorite car Picture:

 

A lot of dating in this '48 chevy!

Probably as you read this I am on the road with my sweetheart. I enjoy driving with her beside me.  There was a time she would nearly be in my lap, kissing me as we rode around.  LOL (Happy times!)

BUT for now (continued) :

Sherry quit a good job in DC and returned to NC to take care of mama.  I remained in D.C. and kept bugging my detailer to find me something near to Charlotte, NC. He did find me a billet at the Charlotte USN Reserve Center, and I could help Sherry some.

FAMILY Caregiving is a serious, mentally strenuous situation. The situation was tough. Sherry did not have a problem taking care of mama, her love for mama was obvious, BUT the strain became too much. I don’t remember all the circumstances, and I might have some wrong, but the tension was rough on our marriage. 

So once ,I left Sherry and took mama back to her home. She was constantly saying, 'I want to go home!'.  I got mama settled in and comfortable, then I took a short trip of about a mile to where Martha was bartending. It was around 3 or 4 in the afternoon bar business was slow and so Martha had time to talk, while I had a couple beers.

Now a funny thing, Doug's pastorate was about a 100 miles away; Sherry was making a trip to see him.  I, of course, did not know that; vice versa, she had no idea I was at a bar!

Martha was still single, she never married. WE had a good visit. She slowly gave me HER advice (bartenders do that you know). She laughed telling me that once when Vondale and Rosa were having some marriage problems, he came to see her and sat right where I was sitting. LOL  Laughing she said, 'I told Von Dale he made his choice, now get back with Rosa and make it work.'

Then she looked me in the eye saying, " NOW YOU! Sherry is the BEST, get yourself back with her and do some apologizing. She loves you to death!”, 

Strange isn’t it?  Bro Douglas gave Sherry the same advice, except I am sure he did not say I was the best. LOL

But thank the Good Lord, my Sherry is the BEST, and we were only separated a few days.  WE were able to keep mama and things leveled out. That was many years ago, life has been good to me, I am one fortunate dude!

But NOT everyone can live in a home with another member of the family.  I sure appreciate and admire those folks who can.  It takes a special relationship on all sides to make that work.  And it is wonderful and sweet when it works smoothly.

.Nite Shipslog

PS.  No one knows what the future holds, but when adversity comes we must be ready to handle it. WE just heard that my friend Von Dale is watching his Rose fade away. A family member said she now weighs 75 pounds and just broke her hip. Not strong enough for surgery, but it must be done! They need all the good thoughts and prayers they can get...

2 comments:

Chatty Crone said...

I have been in your shoes with caretaking and man it is not for babies - it is plain hard. It just put strain on you - you got some space - then came back to where you belonged. TOGETHER. Did you leave your mom by herself?

Mevely317 said...

What a coincidence! I'm so glad you and Sherry both elected to LISTEN!
Lifting prayers for Rose and her surgeons.