Sunday, May 12, 2013

Life is not always fair

First and foremost, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL mothers. One of the most important people in my life was my mother, and not just because she gave me life. There are a million things GOOD I could say about my mama, and not one solitary bad thing can I recall.

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It has taken many years to realize that Sherry and I were very fortunate, we both had wonderful mothers, therefore I thought everyone did.

(We moved a lot, but Sherry’s mama was in Mississippi and Missouri when Sherry gave birth to our boys.)

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I do realize now that is a misconception. For the past few years I have wondered what today’s children will think of their mothers, in say 50 years?

Lately I have read some very sad accounts of sons and daughters speaking of their parents. Most distressing is that these are closer to my age, back when I thought ALL kids were enjoying solid parents. Of course, some were more strict than others, but I still thought mothers and daddies were good folk.  All my friends had good homes.  None wealthy, but all happy.

I just read an account of a son who said, please don’t send  any condolences, my dad finally succeeded in drinking himself to death. His hate of life,  family and  job are now buried with him. He beat his wife and family because he thought life was unfair to him. He finally ended up living off the government for what his doctors called his constant depression. Yes you, my friend, if you paid taxes, helped him buy the booze. My dad was not depressed, he was a drunk and mean as HELL. The article went on into greater detail.

Then another whose mother never cared enough to try to understand. Everyone else's problems were more important than the children under her roof. Meals weren’t necessary, fattening snacks were better, etc.

I wonder today about the kid whose mother is hooked on booze and/or drugs. The mother that brings another ‘uncle’ home each night to get more money for the habits.

If that child lives, what will be their thoughts on Mother’s day?

Now that I have made your day completely depressing, let me say, the above is a minority. I have been blessed, I have never met that mother who is not loved by her children.  I have known the imperfect mother, but personally, I have not met ONE WHO IS NOT LOVED BY HER CHILDREN.

Mothers are loved more than any other title in the world. So again, to the mothers reading this, have a HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY, 2013. If you are not a Mother, you had one, be glad.

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Mevely317 said...

Sad, perhaps ... but (I think) a NECESSARY message, Jack. Like you, I just assumed everyone enjoyed having his/her loving mother figure. I was/am far from perfect, but incredibly humbled when my "boy" tells me he loves me.

Unfortunately, we've a family member who is not speaking to her mother. I want to grab her up and just shake her HARD. Unfortunately, hindsight is 20/20 and I know all about crying bitter tears.

PS - Thank you for the tag! :)))

shirl72 said...

Jack we can truthfully say we had
the best Father and Mother in the
world. I miss them. Sherry's Mother
was a saint also and a good Father.

Happy Mother's Day to Sherry..

Anonymous said...

I honor my mother for giving birth to me and I do believe she did the best she could do. But she was mentally ill and verbally whole childhood...nay practically my whole life I've grieved for my mother who never had or accepted help. I always thought she had a form of OCD and after years of researching on the internet I found a reliable site that had symptoms for a condition called OCPD...Obsessive Compulsive Personality certainly helped me to understand my Mom a little bit better...and age has given me a clearer view of our relationship. So I say Happy Mother's Day to my Moma...and all mothers who struggle with mental illness.

Paula said...

A touching entry, Jack. I feel so very lucky to have two of the most thoughtful and caring daughters.

Lucy said...

MY mother was a wise lady that was a trooper all of her life. I was the last one born but even though my sisters tried to raise me it was my mom that made me the person I am. Be it good or bad, as other people see me I know I am a good person, mom, grandma, great grandma and great great grandma and maybe, a good wife. I got lost in the greats.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Thankfully those kids who didn't have good parents is a minority. It's so sad to see or hear about. I read a quote today that said there is no such thing as a prefect mom but a million ways to be a good one. It's true. None of us are perfect but for a little while in a child's life, we are close anyway. Hope Sherry had a great Mother's Day. I know you did with the loving memories you had of your own mom.

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Chatty Crone said...

I loved my mom Jack - she was not perfect, but who is? The kids of today scare me! Hope you had a GREAT Mother's Day too (Sherry)! Thanks. sandie♥

Jackie said...

Another beautifully-worded and heartfelt post from you, my friend
Thank you for sharing your heart.

Anonymous said...

My parents love & encouragement, unwavering. But, they were in their 40s when I was born & some of their ideas were what I felt to be outdated. I was right about some of it, & wrong about some of it, but I always knew that they loved me beyond any right or wrong.

Some people have very legit complaints against their parents, but some hide behind blame to keep from admitting their own faults & bad choices. ~Mary