Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have. Doris Mortman (from MA’s blog)
I have a friend, Wayne Hodge, who said to me, “Jack, I had to admit to myself I was a late bloomer. I was never a good ‘boss’ until I realized I was ‘easy’, it is just my nature. Now I am able to tell my subordinates when there is a problem, ‘look, I know I am easy’, but I am NOT that easy, I cannot let you get away with taking advantage of our friendship.”
(Some people take longer than others)
Wayne was always friends with his troops, he finally learned what I personally had to learn . A good boss cannot appear to have favorites, although everyone does.
(Nobody likes me since I became the boss!)
Some folk are promoted to administration that cannot do it. They are good workers, but cannot LEAD. We all want to be liked, but a leader or boss will not ALWAYS be liked, or be one of the guys. Many times the old axiom raises it head:“they have been promoted to their highest level of incompetence.” WE HAVE ALL SEEN IT.
Some leaders have nervous breakdowns because the weight is too heavy. Stress is not limited to the every day guy and gal, it effects everyone from the ditch digger to the President of the USA. Handling stress is the key.
Do I know the answer, heck no, there are situations in our ‘tranquil life’ that drives me bonkers, until I read or pay attention a wise man who said, “Which of you can add an hour to your life by worrying?”
But as I related to my Sherry, I bet we can take an hour (or MORE) off our lives by worrying.
One of the best workers and partners I have ever had was my son Mark. I smile to think of the times I have bought a lot and we laid out the house on the dirt. He would call the backhoe man, inspectors and concrete company and schedule them for the same day. (I could NEVER do that.) I completed one job before starting another.
He was laid back.
Mark left me and formed his own construction Company with my blessings. He HAD it all before he was 45, Family, acreage, three homes paid for, land and equipment. (HAD being the operative word)
BUT along life’s way, HE LOST HIS WAY. Thank the Lord, he seems to be finding himself now. BUT that has been a long curvy, down hill ride and the source of much WORRY. Looking back at what I WORRIED and STRESSED over, none of my anguish helped. I just wanted to escape!
I smile at myself at the times I said, ‘It is in the Lord’s hands’. Only to find myself within hours mentally trying to FIX things AGAIN.
I hope you are better at handling the ‘worrying’ part than I. I bet a dance would help us all.
This WAS a VW methinks, before some dreamer customized it.