Have you ever apologized? (If you have been married over 6 months and are still together, you have.)
It is a proven fact, true personal apologies work. Our long marriage is living proof of that.
BUT, What about Collective Apologies? Are they effective? Do they, or Can they help? In other words can one country apologize to another?
We wanted Germany to apologize for the Holocaust!
Japan wanted us to apologize for the Atomic Bomb!
We wanted Japan to apologize for Pearl Harbor.
The Indian or Native American would like an apology, and would like for us to go from whence we came.
Sherry went to Kirk Douglas’s Blog last night. He has a petition asking congress to declare an apology for slavery.
Did Mexico apologize for the Alamo?
I apologized to Sherry! Hey I meant it. It didn’t do a whole lot of good, she was still MAD! (Some folk get mad over the simpliest things!)
Okay here is the truth, as I saw it. As a young married sailor, and adult(?), I was on a bowling league. After bowling (around mid night) the crew decided to get on our pontoon boat and take a mid night cruise. No one had to work the next day it was Thanksgiving. So we took our drinks and headed out to sea. Taking a trip that lasted until about five the next morning.
I would have called home, but none of the other big guys called home. Heck, I am as grown as they, the king of my castle, etc. Everyone understands that (don’t they?) Okay here is the deal, Sherry was still asleep when I come in so I am safe. I smelled something burned, figured what the heck, she forgot the turkey. OH wait, did I tell you I was supposed to take the Turkey out of the oven when I came in from bowling last night? I over looked that small item. Anyway, I had invited a few guys out for Thanksgiving dinner. She is pretty good in the kitchen and salvaged what she could of the Turkey, and stretched the ham. She was as sweet as punch to all the guests; I sorta hated to see them leave (If you know what I mean).
Later I tried to hold her to apologize , nada. I then apologized from a safe distance. Nada. Next day I run down town and buy $25 worth of Chanel #5, which always works, nada.
Two weeks later she came into the living room and said ‘good morning’ to me on the couch, I finally wore her down! Now if it took that long for a personal apology to work, how long do you think it would take for a national apology to work? Get everyone to agree?
I know this don’t make any sense, and it would not help to keep on, so I quit!