Have you ever discussed this with your children? The way our longevity goes now, the Doctors keep us alive way past our ability to decide for our selves. So one day friend your children will have to decide, What are we going to do with Mom &/or dad? Folks this is a good question.
I know my good friend Lindie knows about this. Shirl, Sherry and I have experienced keeping a loved one in our home. Shirl has went thru the situation, admirably I might say, about four times.
My brother & wife took care of her mother & Dad ‘til the end.
But this is not the time of the Waltons. Families cannot handle the pressure of having their own family members in the house 24/7 and have a life of their own. Because friend you may think it will be for a short time, but you may be surprised.
Sherry and I have told out boys. When we get so we cannot take care of our selves, put us in a home, assisted living, nursing home, what ever it is called. Put ME there and if you can come to see me, that would be nice. But I do not want to cause trouble in a marriage or family. I have lived my life. I am satisfied with what I have done. I don’t want my sons to talk to each other and say I feel bad putting daddy in a home, but we are not equipped to handle it. The both know up front, I do not want to live in with them. Do you have any thoughts on the subject?
Just for the record when our family met to decide what to do about my sweet mama. I am the real WISE guy who said, “MY MAMA WILL NEVER GO TO A NURSING HOME!” AFTER THAT BIG SPEECH, the work fell on Sherry my wife until she hurt her back, then I was able to help some. Then Jim & Shirley who were in Maryland. Quit a good job to come home to help. AND IT TOOK VERY ONE OF US!