I will be writing to the seniors. By seniors I mean anyone over fifty. I want to touch all ages from there up. Have you made your desires KNOWN in no uncertain terms to your mate and off spring, what to do when YOU get too old to take care of yourself or are dangerous to yourself or others? This is not a Living Will, even though that is important, very important. This is concerning your wishes concerning you personally. The object is to take the onus off the kids, so they will know:
Mama/Daddy wants to live alone, even with the threat of possibly falling, breaking something and being without help for hours. That way when it happens to you can lay there and say, I asked for this, boy was I stupid. Your children will still feel bad for the rest of their lives, but they will know that was your desires.
I have been in that position, as a son, I do not want my boys to be faced with that tough decision. They have been told, while we are in our right(?) minds, if we get to the position where we are a danger to ourselves or others put us in a home. WE hope to go peacefully, if not drag us kicking and screaming, and always remember it was OUR decision. Don’t feel bad about it, Come to see us when you can but don't let us put a guilt trip on you.
This stupid thing (computer) is doing something I do not understand. It is typing Red Print and underlining. I quit.
For the book, I will be asking for any input you have on the subject, personal knowledge and experiences. This is very important as we are actually out living our bodies now. Assisted living facilities are filling up with folks with Alzheimer’s, over weight to the point of not being able to get in and out of bed, bodies that cannot stand pressure on the bones without breaking them, and amputees. Folks that cannot remember to take the meds or even know which they take anymore.
I do not plan to cover costs, but I do want some input on costs for general knowledge.
Did you ever see the customers in a health-food store? They are pale, skinny people who look half dead. In a steak house you see robust,ruddy people. They're dying of course but they look terrific.