Monday, June 1, 2015

Sometimes I read and other times I READ

(Hiking pictures from yesteryear) I just finished a long article by someone I never heard of, William Irvine.  I prefer books to articles, but this drew my interest, 'It is healthy to think about death.'

It caught my eye because when you reach a certain age (uh hum) you do think about it more. Basically what I gleaned from the LONGGGG article was death is a fact (yeah we know that), and when we actually know that, life becomes more important.  Have you noticed that at a funeral of a family member or friend?  I know I do and  especially if the deceased is young(er).

I smiled at a couple of the statements, one "Americans are good about covering their anxieties of death under an order of fries or a trip to Walmart."

So I looked at my girl the other night and said, you know, I am glad I am me. I cannot  remember (after 14-15 yrs old) ever wanting to be someone else. Or wanting what they had.

She looked at me and said, but we have always had about what we wanted, didn't we?

I answered her, BUT WE NEVER WANTED MUCH. (And in the beginning of our marriage we did not. She was enough for me.)  I said, remember we didn't need a new car, a bigger trailer, apartment or house. YOU were the main thing in my life. I really did not need anything else. I am smiling now because MA way up in Ohio has been talking a lot this year about love.  So I guess LOVE is really all we needed, the rest was incidental. 

AS we have aged we have thought of death more. I have mentioned it here in my blog. But it is  healthy thoughts.  When I am concerned about heart attacks (and I have been several times, my dad and a brother died of heart failure) I ask folks who have had a heart attack.  The symptoms are not the same. My brother said it was like a train ran over his chest. My nephew said, he thought it was gas and my dad hurt in his left arm.  That is only a few answers I gleaned.

(We could have made payments on the Vette but settled for a Plymouth we could pay for)

Thanks to  friends and some family we have accepted the fact that most likely one of us will be left alone. Again I ask questions. I read, sometimes I get a short but poignant point from MA, Paula, Helen, Rose, Shirl, Kat and my best friend Sonny before he died. NO ONE paints a rosy picture but you all say:
 LIFE goes on and you deal with it. 

So we know it is coming, and we know we will be shocked. And I do not doubt we do not know HOW shocked. but when you have never experienced it................

Nite Shipslog
PS: I miss my word counter......


The pictures are what I could find on Picassa. I lost an entry and am afraid to look further tonight.


shirl72 said...

You are right with age we think of death. When we were young we though
only older people died. Life has change and we know it can happen at
any age. We do get a little smarter with age..

shirl72 said...

PS: I missed the last one...I check all the time and don't know
how you write one that I miss. Mother made me a sailor coat. I guess
we were a military family because of our 2 older brothers in Navy.

betty said...

It is great the attitude you and Sherry have about life and how "simple" you lived and live. Its true in a marriage that more than likely one will be left behind. I think about it and tell my husband some of the plans I'll do if he passes before me. I don't know how he feels about it, but I think he would want to know that I would be able to handle being alone, of course missing him.


Mevely317 said...

OK, so I couldn't resist sneaking a preview at this post on my drive home ... and darn if I couldn't put it down!
(What's that they say about Mr. God protecting pups, children and commuters with cell phones?)

In all seriousness, your mention of Death struck a chord. As long as I can remember - for no discernable reason - I've been obsessed (and terrified) with the idea of Death. (Never would have guessed I grew up in a religious household, would you?)
Even when my momma was lingering in her final days in the Care Center and I believed myself to be prepared, her passing came as a shock.

Your thoughts always provoke my own, Jack. Thank you!


Although we all know it's in the cards, eventually... Death has a way of shocking us anyway. Leaving those we love behind is the saddest part of it.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Death is something we'll all face sooner or later. You and Sherry are so blessed to have each other. I've been a widow now over 20 years and was married to the love of my life. There's never been another to take his place. I think we must have lived in simpler times as I don't ever remember wanting more than we had either. We made do and never thought of having or doing as much as what my children do now. We were happy with what we had. It was a great loss when he died and it took awhile for me to accept it, but yes life does go on.

Paula said...

I missed this entry with company here. My daughter's friend's father just passed away and her family are already trying to decide where she should live. Even though she is older, she is able bodied so I think they should back off and see what she wants to do and make up her mind in due time.

Rose said...

Yes, the older we get we do think of death more often and more so if we lost a spouse. And, when more medical issues pop up and aches and pains....gets scary sometimes but I try to take one day at a time.

Hugs to my favorite couple~

Stephanie Faris said...

My ex-husband's grandfather died and 30 days later, his grandmother followed. Sometimes one spouse leaves the other behind but sometimes not for long. I think when a love is that strong, perhaps one just can't stay without the other for long in heaven...