Tuesday, October 26, 2021

Just a fire

Car of the day

 Until yesterday I never knew this was called a "Chevrolet Bowtie!" Have you  ever heard it called that?

Sherry & I dated in Chevys. My first car was a '48. We owned a '50 as our first car as a married couple. 

Now for Today:

Lately Sherry and I have spent hours at our fire pit. We do a lot of talking, discussing things that happen to OLD people. Trying to decide when to drastically modify our life style.  With Sherry feeling bad lately, feeling nauseous, not having much of an appetite gives her a new view of life.

She is referring to her cousin Ralph, he is 93 now. He and his wife have a beautiful home in the country, down in Georgia. She has not felt like cooking for a couple years now so they have entered a senior community that is detached homes, where all meals are served. He calls and talks to Sherry, neither he nor his wife can give in to selling their home yet.  Most days they eat a meal at their new home then drive back to their ‘REAL HOME.’

WE are hearing what we know is the soul of most seniors, hating to give up that independence. Ralph knows the time will come to release their home. They both know they will more than likely NEVER return to their home in the country.

Since Sherry does not feel like cooking nor eating much, she repeats the often made statement: “We all seem to want to lose some weight, but we do not want to lose our appetite.”  That of course, is a very true statement.

We live in this side of our duplex.  (pic before the drives were paved)
Above is looking down into the picnic area, the fire ring is hidden by the trees.
This is our coach, patiently(?) waiting for orders to head out! We lived in this and one like it for over 20 years.
This is a view of the front of the duplex. It is actually deeded as two condos.  The side you see here is rented out, it pays the maintenance, ins. and taxes on both sides.

So we toss around options:

….. Sell and rent a small place. A very good option where the land lord worries about the normal house problems and eat out more.

….. Complete an apartment in the basement, and hire a full time house keeper and cook. (I would lose some of my play house,  that would be tough).

….. Sell ALL, and move into an apartment at an assisted living place that furnishes all meals and house cleaning. (BUT, I still need a play house to play and FIX things, I know, it is an addiction)

….. Sell everything, move back into the motor home and find a place nearby to rent a parking space.

….. I think the ideal thing would be to sell everything and buy a small 1-2 BR house. Live 6 months here and 6 months in our trailer in Florida.  Driving our car or flying back and forth.  Probably the best option, but Belmont housing is ridiculous at present, a small preowned home like that runs $200-$250K……

The other option, and one that will probably be used is let life take care of the problems as it forces a change, or drops the decisions into our sons’ laps. I do not like for someone to be forces to clean up my mess. L.

 Nite Shipslog

PS: Let me tell you, life gets complicated when you are old, still have health, BUT KNOW it is 'responsible' to prepare for the future (if U can) L.


Mevely317 said...

First, I LOVE how you and Sherry pow-wow these decisions.
I wouldn't begin to try and offer any advice ... except to venture, y'all might be miserable in an assisted living facility. What if you don't like the cooking?! Definitely, a boy needs him a 'play house.'

Isn't it feel wonderful to have options?

Glenda said...

MY heart aches at the thought of you two being caged.

Unknown said...

Sorry Sherry has not been feeling well. It's hard when you don't feel well. I hope it passes and she can begin to feel better. Lots of option you have there for your future living arrangements. I know you'll both pick what's best for you both and your situation when the time comes. In the meantime, I hope Sherry starts to feel better and you can hit the road in that coach. That'll probably do you both a world of good.

Victor S E Moubarak said...

Praying for Sherry and for your good health. I agree and appreciate it is so difficult to make decisions often. I am praying for God's guidance for both of you in this respect.

God bless you both and your family.

Glenda said...

I'm praying for Sherry (and you, Jack) it's hard to deal with the growing older. My bout with high blood pressure has been a tough one. But, as IrmaNee would say with a smile, "I'm making it". Positive thinker she was. Still miss her, so much, every day.

Dar said...

We're beginning to feel the brunt of things concerning aging. Like my daddy used to say," The only thing golden about the golden years was his pee..." So sadly true. I don't envy your decisions but once you decide, your hearts will rest easier. For now, go out to eat more often or perhaps find a church kitchen that serves meals...or meals on wheels like we have up north for the elderly, that deliver meals to your home. I would also have a very hard time leaving our home. We also need our play house. Staying active is what keeps us going. Happy trails if you decide to ' ride out ' your decisions in the coach.
loven'hugs from up north where we are in for some much needed rain. The frogs and trees are dry.......

Dar said...

Many, many daily prayers for you, Sherry, to feel better...I don't like to hear you're ailing. loveya girl!, Dar n' Bill

Lisa said...

Me and Nick have often had the same thoughts on where we want to enjoy life. We have thought about getting a condo that we can own but not worry about keeping the outside up and get a perm place at the beach then just go back and forth as we please.
We talk but I feel like nothing will come of it.
If it were up to me, I’d live poor in my camper at the beach full time and find a job down there.