Friday, January 17, 2020
I am dead, Now what?
Autos of beauty
1955 Dodge, Yep I would like to drive around on a Sunday afternoon in that.
I saw that title of a book going around on the internet publishing sites. At first I thought it was a weird novel, and then I thought it is probably a self-help ‘planner’, where you can centralize all your planning for the ultimate move.
I did finally search for the book and found it is just that. You do not necessarily need a book, but you do need to centralize your desires and information. A few years ago my sister Shirley was involved in handling matters after several deaths
I received letters and later e-mails. JACKIE, WRITE YOUR OBITUARY! I actually did. Her reasoning was at the funeral home there is a lot of required information needed to form a simple obit. I have learned since, that MUCH more planning is needed. The coffin itself should be picked or at least a $ amount you would prefer spent left as a guide line. At the time of death of a MOTHER, families want the BEST for mama. Unless some restraints are used some folk spend more than they can actually afford. In our neck of the woods a simple funeral will be near $10,000.
I heard a man say at the death of his dad, “Daddy thought he was going to live forever, he should have done something about his death plans.” (I really wanted to ask him, when do you plan to die?) The father had planned, it was just that his wife was so distraught; she could not remember where the info was at that moment.
I was shocked at my sister Shirley’s last request when I opened it. After all her getting in my case, she had torn up her obit. She did not want one. However I wasn’t left in the dark she had everything in writing, and ORDERED me to do certain things. She had planned.
Due to cost and space, many people opt for cremation. My wife will not hear of that. I want to be buried at sea, she won’t hear of that either. So Imma feed the worms. I would rather feed fish. LOL
In our family files we have a ‘DEATH FILE’. I do need to check and see if it needs an update and remind the boys where the information is. This is a serious subject, and should be addressed to assist those who are hurting. You can be sure, they will appreciate it.
PS: NO! I am not concerned that it is imminent! ;-)