Sunday, January 5, 2020

The power of suggestion

Autos of beauty
       That 1986 Caddy
For today:

Some subjects I write come from News Headlines on the internet which 'plant a seed.'  i.e. When I saw “Ten signs

 you are going to have a heart attack” I did’t read them.


Are you, or do you know anyone who is subject to fall under the power of suggestion? One is NOT necessarily weak, frail or mentally challenged if they are subject to suggestion. You most likely know what I am saying. The perfectly healthy person who is told, ‘You look a little sick, is there a problem?’ and in a short while the person starts feeling sick, or something like that.

You see, I know such a man. Former Green Beret, who served 3-4 tours in Viet Nam.  A Highly decorated hero that faced death hundreds of times, definitely not a pansy, but a man’s man. He was even a handsome ladies man. He could run 10-15 miles at 70 years of age, great physique.

In his early 80s he was still actively entertaining seniors; a local star admired by hundreds. Like many seniors he had joint replacement, it never slowed him down.

BUT, but while visiting his doctor, with NO TEST done, he was told, “You  are in the early stages of Alzheimer’s.”  He went home and became a couch potato. He told me, “They say I’ve got IT, I must have.”*** After a few months with no noticeable change he still made statements to his daughters, “It don’t want to become mean like some people do.”

It has been years now, at 87 we are still waiting for the major signs of Alzheimer’s. He knows everyone, family & friends, remembers every birthday of his 6 siblings. Still loves to sing. I am amazed when he sings every word of “I’m my own Grandpa.”

Anyway, like many of us seniors, he is getting some dementia; However, in my opinion, he was affected by suggestion a few years ago. This is not my first Rodeo, I am very familiar with Dementia. My mama could fool most anyone talking in 'general' for 30 minutes. But this man I can talk specifics for a long time and he doesn't miss a beat nor BS me.

*** When hearing the Doctor's opinion, I would have expected this man to say, "You are Crazy Doc, we'll see about that, but right now I have things to do."

Nite Shipslog

If you know this man, just smile. I realize this cannot be reversed. He is one of my heroes.
PS:  There is no need to read this unless you just want to, I’m just making a point!
"I'm My Own Grandpa"
Now, many many years ago
When I was twenty three
I was married to a widow
Who was pretty as could be

This widow had a grown-up daughter
Had hair of red
My father fell in love with her
And soon the two were wed

This made my dad my son-in-law
And changed my very life
My daughter was my mother
'Cause she was my father's wife

To complicate the matters
Even though it brought me joy
I soon became the father
Of a bouncing baby boy

My little baby then became
A brother-in-law to dad
And so became my uncle
Though it made me very sad

For if he was my uncle
That also made him the brother
Of the widow's grown-up daughter
Who, of course, was my step-mother

I'm my own grandpa
I'm my own grandpa
It sounds funny I know
But it really is so
I'm my own grandpa

My father's wife then had a son
That kept them on the run
And he became my grandchild
For he was my daughter's son

My wife is now my mother's mother
And it makes me blue
Because, she is my wife
She's my grandmother too

I'm my own grandpa
I'm my own grandpa
It sounds funny I know
But it really is so
I'm my own grandpa

Now, if my wife is my grandmother
Then, I am her grandchild
And every time I think of it
It nearly drives me wild

For now I have become
The strangest case you ever saw
As the husband of my grandmother
I am my own grandpa

I'm my own grandpa
I'm my own grandpa
It sounds funny I know
But it really is so
I'm my own grandpa

I'm my own grandpa
I'm my own grandpa
It sounds funny I know
But it really is so
I'm my own grandpa


I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I'm glad that doctor was wrong and that terrible Alzheimer’s was not what the man had. I guess there are tests they can be snow, but not every doctor is right, they make mistakes just like we all do. I hope that if that ever comes my way, I'm not mean either. I had an aunt that turned mean and hit her sister with her cane. It's a devastating disease for all.

Woody said...

Good Post, My Dear Sister passed away, she had the Big "A" "Dementia" "Hardening of the Arties", or what ever name you wish to call it, she became Violent sadly and later passed. I am in my 70's, I had several TIA's and a Stroke, I forget words, Anna Mae is not allowed to finish a sentence for me, nor tell me a word I can't find, I do Brain Exercises and belong to a Stroke Recovery Group ! My Sister is no longer in Pain, Jesus has her now !

Mevely317 said...

What a capital-Tragedy! How I wish he'd sought a second opinion … or even a third. But like so many of our generation, we were taught never to question the doctor.

For sure, the power of suggestion is real. Back in '62? I read a book excerpt in Reader's Digest about a girl my age -- (The Triumph of Janis Babson) -- who died from leukemia. All summer I was convinced I, too, had leukemia, but was too scared to tell my parents. Such a waste of time!

Chatty Crone said...

I think the power of suggestion is real - good and bad. I have decided to talk positive to myself this year as one of my resolutions!

Plus everybody gets dementia of some sort. lol

betty said...

I had not heard of that song. Not sure why it happens but we all have a bit of being influenced by the power of suggestion. I remember at 18 years of age working for a cardiologist and thinking I was having a heart attack because I had chest pain (again power of suggestion hearing elderly people coming in complaining of it).



heard that song years ago. still just as interesting as it was then. i'm glad your friend didn't fall victim to alzheimers. i was told i had MS and another doctor said no way i had it. i don't so... there you go. unfortunately i have an auto-immune disease now. so that may have been what i had all along.

Lisa said...

I have lost a lot of trust in doctors. I’m glad they were wrong.
It’s always best to always think the best. The power of the mind is real.

Love from here

yaya said...

Working with Docs I've learned that they are human and make mistakes. And frankly, with computers, I think they make more mistakes relying on the technology instead of actually looking at the patient! I think many of us worry about dementia as we get older. I'm seeing it start in my Mom who's 93. She has good days and not so good ones but thankfully she's still able to be in her own home (with my Sister who helps take care of her) and still remembers me! I hope you have a wonderful week! (Use that power of suggestion!)

Rick Watson said...

I agree with the suggestion thing. I’ve seen similar things a number of times.
Sometimes doctors, lawyers, clergy and other prominent people don’t realize how powerful there words are to those who listen.

Rick Watson said...

By the way, your blog notified me last night that you had posted. That’s the first time in over a year. Interesting.

boromax said...

Same thing as Rick. I was surprised to see a notification from your blog - and delighted, too! Not sure what happened, but glad to see you back in my inbox. As for the whole power of suggestion and reliability of doctors ideas... I agree and mourn. Society, media, the pharmaceutical industry - have all convinced us of what "growing old" looks like. I was at a friend's mother's 100th birthday party last week, which reminded me that we don't have to be what the world tells us to be just because of a date on the calendar. Forward ho!

Sheila Y said...

Lonzo and Oscar, saw them once in Opp believe it or not. Have a picture with them somewhere. They sung ‘my own grandpa’. Sad he feared he had it when he really didn’t.
Take care, Sheila